Sexy Summer Bucket List: 10 Flirty Things to Try Before Labor Day

Sun’s out, buns out… and not just the ones at your neighborhood cookout. Summer is prime time for turning up the heat — in your bedroom, your bathroom, or wherever inspiration strikes. Whether you’re partnered, single, or delightfully “it’s complicated,” this playful bucket list is all about adding a little spice to your summer. Because who says your hot girl summer can’t come with a side of giggles and a splash of sensuality?

Here are 10 flirty things to try before Labor Day — no passport or permission slip required:

1. Skinny Dip (or Tub Dip) at Night

You don’t need a pool to feel free. A candlelit bath with bubbles, music, and a glass of something sparkly totally counts — especially if you bring your waterproof toy along for the float.

2. Have a Makeout Session Like You’re 17 Again

No pressure. Just kissing. No phones. No agenda. Just lips, hands, and a whole lot of teasing.

3. Send a Flirty Text That Makes You Blush

Not a whole sext — just a preview. Something like: “Thinking about last night… and maybe later.” Bonus points if they can’t stop smiling in public.

4. Try a New Toy — Just for You

Ever looked at a toy and thought, “I’m not sure that’s for me?” Well, this summer, be bold. Explore something you’ve never tried — a new shape, sensation, or style.
Need help choosing? I’ve got you.

5. Dance in Your Underwear to a Ridiculously Good Song

Your living room. No one watching. Zero shame. It’s your private concert. Add lace or silk if you’re feeling fancy.

6. Take a Sunset Walk — and Leave the Bra at Home

There’s something incredibly freeing about not wearing a bra. Try it with a breezy dress, some confidence, and that “I’m doing this for me” attitude.

7. Plan a Spontaneous Date Night In

Who says date nights need a reservation? Light a massage candle, order takeout, and pull out your favorite game (or toy) for two.

8. Buy Yourself Something That Makes You Feel Irresistible

Lingerie, lube, or that pheromone perfume everyone keeps asking about. You deserve the good stuff — no special occasion required.

9. Read Something Steamy on the Beach

Yes, you can blush behind your sunglasses. Pack a spicy book, sip your iced coffee, and enjoy the waves with a side of smut.

10. Start Saying “Yes” to Pleasure Without Apology

Whether it’s five minutes with your favorite toy or a whole weekend escape — pleasure isn’t a reward. It’s a right.

Ready to Make This Summer the Hottest One Yet?
I’ve got the toys, the tips, and the trusted advice to turn up the heat — solo or partnered. Explore your desires, discover something new, and let this be the summer you find your own passion™.

Trish Stoecker

I’m a 32-year Army veteran turned intimacy and wellness expert, passionate about helping people feel confident, connected, and empowered. Through Find Your Own Passion™, I offer curated intimacy products, fun in-home parties, and peri/menopause life coaching. No matter your age or stage, my mission is simple: My passion is helping you find yours™.

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