Sex Questions Everyone’s Googling — Answered

Let’s be honest — when it comes to sexual health, most of us have Googled something we’d never dream of asking out loud. From “Is this normal?” to “Why is this happening?” the internet has become our modern-day confessional booth.

But here’s the truth: asking questions about your body, pleasure, and desire doesn’t make you weird — it makes you wise. So instead of leaving you to sort through a million half-baked answers online, I’ve gathered the top five sexual health questions people are asking Google and unpacked them with real, evidence-based answers (and a dash of midlife wisdom).

Because curiosity is sexy. And clarity? Even sexier.

1. “How do you have sex?”

Yes, really — this is the number one sexual health question people type into Google.

And while it might sound basic, it’s actually one of the most important. “Having sex” isn’t just about anatomy and friction — it’s about communication, connection, and consent.

If you’re in midlife, the way you define sex might look different now than it did in your 20s or 30s — and that’s okay. Hormone changes, hot flushes, dryness, and shifting libido can all affect how you experience pleasure.

Here’s the real key: there’s no single “right way.” What matters is that it’s mutually enjoyable, pain-free, and emotionally safe. Talk about what feels good. Explore. Laugh. Use lube. Repeat.

2. “Why am I bleeding after sex?”

This one shows up in Google searches thousands of times every month — and for good reason. It can be unsettling to see blood after intercourse.

Sometimes, it’s nothing serious. A little spotting can happen if your vaginal tissues are dry or sensitive, especially during perimenopause or menopause. But it can also be a sign of something that needs checking — like an infection, fibroid, polyp, or cervical issue.

Rule of thumb: If it happens more than once, is heavy, or comes with pain, don’t brush it off. Schedule a chat with your healthcare provider. You deserve peace of mind (and pain-free pleasure).

3. “How long should I wait to have sex after a yeast infection?”

Short answer: until you’re symptom-free and treatment is done.

Yeast and other vaginal infections can make sex uncomfortable and increase the risk of reinfection if you rush it. Give your body time to heal — even if you’re feeling impatient.

For midlife women, hormonal changes can alter your vaginal microbiome, making you more prone to irritation or infections. Using gentle cleansers, staying hydrated, and balancing your hormones can help prevent repeat issues.

And when you’re ready to get back in the saddle? Start slow, use plenty of lube, and check in with your body. Pleasure shouldn’t hurt.

4. “Is sex good for you?”

Yes — but not in the clickbait “burn calories while you moan” kind of way.

Sex (solo or partnered) offers real benefits: better mood, lower stress, improved sleep, and stronger immune health. It increases blood flow, supports pelvic floor strength, and releases those feel-good endorphins that make you feel more connected and alive.

That said, “good for you” doesn’t mean “mandatory.” A healthy sex life is one that feels right for you, at your pace, in your body, and on your terms.

For women in midlife, sex can be a wonderful way to stay in tune with your body — but so can self-pleasure, cuddling, massage, or emotional intimacy. There’s more than one path to connection and confidence.

5. “How often should we be having sex?”

Ah, the million-dollar question.

Here’s the truth: there’s no universal number. The “average couple” might have sex a few times a month — or a few times a week. But averages don’t matter. What matters is satisfaction.

If you and your partner are both happy, you’re doing it right. If one of you feels disconnected, it’s worth having an honest (and pressure-free) conversation about what each of you needs right now.

Hormones, stress, sleep, health, and emotional connection all play a role in libido — especially during perimenopause and menopause. Instead of asking “how often should we,” try asking “what kind of intimacy feels fulfilling for us?”

That mindset shift can transform your relationship from routine to revitalized.

The Bottom Line

If you’ve ever Googled one (or all) of these questions, you’re in good company. Curiosity is how we learn, grow, and reconnect with ourselves — especially during midlife, when our bodies and desires evolve in new and beautiful ways.

So here’s your reminder: You’re not broken, you’re becoming.

Ask the questions. Explore your body. Seek professional guidance when needed. And most of all, give yourself permission to experience pleasure on your own terms.

Because your sexual wellness is part of your overall health — and it deserves attention, laughter, and love.

My passion is helping you find yours™

Patricia Stoecker

I’m a 32-year Army veteran turned intimacy and wellness expert, passionate about helping people feel confident, connected, and empowered. Through Find Your Own Passion™, I offer curated intimacy products, fun in-home parties, and peri/menopause life coaching. No matter your age or stage, my mission is simple: My passion is helping you find yours™.

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